In my early 30s, like so many otherwise reasonable people, I kept making the same mistakes. I encountered a different face, but the same treatment. A healer I worked with, told me it was because early wounds of betrayal and abandonment were reflecting themselves in painful situations and people who represented those concepts. I would keep recreating those dynamics until I healed the pain I was holding in my body. The solution was within me, and it was up to me to heal and allow the changes. It twisted me into an S-curve, I simply couldn’t imagine living in that…


THE TAO OF SCOLIOSIS

Scoliosis, the lateral asymmetric deviation of the spine, is idiopathic. That means doctors don’t yet know or fully understand it.

Experientially, we know the causes are as varied as the people that suffer from it. Here’s a synopsis: Muscles pull bones, stimulated by messages sent from the nervous systems motor pathway, to animate the muscle fibers to contract or release. The messaging can also be a suspension of movement, as in holding the diaphragm from inhaling or exhaling. …


“In one social-science experiment, people were told to spend 15 minutes alone in a room with their thoughts. The only possible distraction was an electric shock they could administer to themselves. And 67 percent of men and 25 percent of women shocked themselves, choosing as Richard Friedman, a psychiatrist, writes in a Times Op-Ed — “negative stimulation over no stimulation.”

That’s provocative, but let’s go a level deeper: What if the stimulus is not obvious?

There’s plenty going on in our heads right now — the lack of activity and physical connections, worries about health, economic pressure, negative responses…


When you can’t go out, go in. Instead of getting more and frustrated and angry, look for shelter within. It’s there — you just have to explore. Here are some ideas on how.

Find a space in your home where you can sit comfortably. Turn off your phone. Close the door. Let anyone else around you know you’re ‘going in’ and you would appreciate not being disturbed. (Or you can just say you’re working.)

Now sit.

There’s a little more to this than you might think. Do your best to allow your spine to decompress by allowing your head to…


Photo: Nathan Dumlao

It has been posited, that this pandemic is the Earth giving us humans time in: ‘Timeout’. Which translates to an opportunity to tune-in to one’s self. The choice has been made for us. How you handle the edict from the Earth, the CDC or WHO, is what you can control. How do you respond? Is it triggering anxiety, worry, desperation and fear? If you are, you have the world’s company — it has indeed gotten real!

If you are on the spectrum veering towards the other direction to calm and trust, you will be doing yourself a favor. Those in…


— The issue is in the tissue.

In my early 30s, like so many otherwise reasonable people, I kept making the same mistakes. I encountered a different face, but the same behavior. A healer I worked with, told me it was because it was early wounds were manifesting themselves through my actions and relationships — painful situations and people who represented abandonment and betrayal. I would keep recreating those dynamics until I healed the pain I was holding in my body. The solution was within me, and it was up to me to heal and allow the changes. …


GETTING OUT OF THE WAY

I recently reconnected with a client from the 1990s and heard some of his job search horror stories. He was telling me how many of the resumes submitted online now are read only by ‘bots’ and reconstituted in a list based on preset criteria, negating fonts and non-keyword material. It’s totally impersonal, literally robotic and entirely disheartening.

I understand that this is a signature trend of the modern world, the digital world. But how can we reclaim the real, the intimate and the conscious-relating experience when everything is reduced to statistics and algorithms?

Well, let’s…


photo by Hari Panicker

Coming to the Alexander Technique, it helps to know that you will tap into emotional and mental habits. . . if you allow it. Yes, you can come to Alexander Technique for an obvious physical issue or postural concerns. . .but you will experience many other benefits. Indeed, you will expand how you think and what you think about!

It’s up to you how deep you want to allow, but I’ve been honored to facilitate students’ old wounds to emerge, and through the lessons and the process, they experience positive and irrevocable change. …


“Tao:Complementary Waves”, pastel on paper, 14x17", Copyright Cate McNider 2019

We live in times of turmoil: the need for awareness about how humanity treats humanity in the natural world is greater than ever.

Finishing up with a student the other day, chatting in the hallway, we talked about how the world is in the Age of Aquarius, having left the Age of Pisces. It’s the the Age of ‘Breakdown of Order’. We are in a healing crisis — we can either transform to more enlightened societies or default into tyranny. I’m working towards the former!

What does this have to do with practicing the Alexander Technique? A lot, actually. As…


“Chair Work”, 14x17, pastel on paper, 2018, Cate McNider

“That’s the thing FM used to say, ‘What we’re doing is interfering in a person’s sense of security — what we’re giving them is something much more secure, but they can’t feel it so they don’t know it yet. They will in time. That’s the thing you’ve got to be aware of — how frightening it is to have these tension patterns we’ve built up as our security taken away from us. That’s why it’s got to be gentle and gradual, not too much, because it’s frightening.”

~Marjory Barlow: An Examined Life (pg 156)

It can be scary: Letting go…

The Listening Body

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